“Hi, my name is Sylvia Mba. I’m a young adult and i just turned twenty”. Dang! I love the sound of that. I know a lot of people will say “you think being an adult is easy?” or “you will soon get tired of being an adult”. Lol i know. But what would you rather? Be a sixteen year old who never grows or manning up and be the goddamn adult you’re supposee to be? Choose your pick. Even if the former was really an option in this life, i could never choose that. You know why? Because i want to grow, physically(very important), mentally, spiritually and otherwise. I want to grow because there are positions waiting for me to assume, there are dreams and goals set only for adulthood. You guys, i want to get married and have kids(another palava you may say) and i can’t do all these by being a kid. So… Leave me to my excitement, mbok(please).
A little rewind to the year 2017, i was nineteen. Whatever happened in that year, it formed me, got me ready for life, for adulthood,for twenty. I was gracefully broken but i was healed. Turning twenty is not even a thing of shakara. It’s the beginning of a harder life, more thinking, ya know, you have to think of academics, marriage(i think I’ve officially entered into the phase of, “ihu di ga luru” or “if you see husband, you marry”), how to enlarge your coast and stuff like that. It’s sad to say that at twenty, a lot of people still haven’t had their lives figured out yet. But if you’re not the lazy type, i want you to know that this is God’s plan. He’s working on it. Hang in there a little while.
September the 1st was great. Even my keypad knows that, lol. It was beyond my imagination. I had woken up by 2am,not feeling so happy. I recalled my ninetenth birthday which was spent in bed all day. I didn’t do anything to try and make myself happy. So fast-forward ⏩ ⏩ ⏩ later in the morning, i woke up seeing my face everywhere. People wrote a lot of good stuff about me. Someone whom I’ve had no serious conversation with and admire from a distance puts up my picture to wish me well and I’m like, “sayyyyy whaaaaaat???!!!” It meant a lot to me, you guys. My three best friends surprised me. One gave me a free face beat(plus her mood. I was literally praying to God to keep her in a good mood. She’s quite a case, lol) , another sewed this very lovely dress for me. Fam, i wished for new dresses for my photoshoot but as time went by, my account was being drained slowly so i scratched the idea. But here i was stunning in a new dress made with love by my best friend
and and another ordered a cake for me
Both cakes were baked and designed by my elder sister whose works are mind blowing and maaaaaadddddd!!!! For the first time in forever, i got to celebrate with two cakes. My elder sisters allowed me to use some of their things to shine for the world. My friends reached out to me and supported me financially even when i did not directly ask. I have to admit, i was a broke ass towards my birthday. I was scared that I’d fall a lot of hands(disappoint) after all the hype about my twentieth birthday. Now, this is where I’ll talk about peace of God. My hopes of getting finance before my birthday was dashed. And even if I’d felt this crazy urge to just scratch all the plans(after all, i didn’t have much), i still was calm on the outside and somehow on the inside too. God kept this plan because he wanted to keep me happy and i really am grateful. You can’t get this peace if you do not know Him.
So, here’s something i did purposely. All i wanted was a perfect September the 1st 2018 but i was scared to be unhappy. So, i shifted my party(i really wanted to have a party) to 2nd and left 1st open for any wonderful thing that wanted to happen. The rains took my afternoon and left me with few hours of the evening. You want to know what happened that evening? I got a gift of a pack of pure bliss wafers. Lol. Yeah it seems like nothing but the purpose behind it was heart warming(i love pure bliss wafers and i may not say it often but i eat it often, so the giver was observant and it meant a lot that someone pays attention to very little details about me). My party may not have been all i hoped for it to be because as usual, the ladies were all busy with the people they knew and every now and then, cooperation between the MC and the audience was lost(i left for the convenience just to cool off incase my anger became unbearable and i let out all the roast I’ve been keeping in and again God was there whispering peace to me) but i had fun laughing(very very important), dancing and listening to all nice things my friends said about me when they were asked to say what they hated about me(this was the plan of my two evil friends, lol, but they were put to shame).
I had imagined this year’s birthday right from February. I had very big plans, bigger than my account could carry(i was still rich then, it was easier for me to imagine). As the day drew closer, i lost faith in having a wonderful birthday but God who sees the heart of man and all that is contained therein raised helpers from nowhere in particular just so i could enjoy my day. Am i not loved, guys? I sincerely pray and wish and hope that God keeps everyone happy. It may not be possible always but the times you need to be most. Guys, my twentieth birthday was all i wanted and more. The love was real and much( sniffs and wipes eyes). I just want to say thanks for making feel relevant and loved, everyone who had a hand in this(to my guests too). And thanks for staying with me to end of this article.
As always, i want to know what you thought about this, if i was too foolish to dream bigger than the money in my account, if you thought my friends are all angels and if you thought there were some missing piece. Ya know, just anything you thought. Kilzilzzzzz(in Fal’s voice)